“ I must admit I was initially put off by the book’s marketing juggernaut, which suggested it was simply a memoir of “grief and loss” penned by “America’s most resilient writer.” Really, it was this last phrase “America’s most resilient writer” that bothered me the most. What a horrible thing to say about someone like her, I thought. Resilient, like she’s waterproof? I wondered to myself what she thought about this preposterous claim. Still, I also know “resilient” is something old people are supposed to be. Old people who do anything late in life other than go to doctor’s appointments and talk about Medicare Part B are “resilient. ”